“And expecting women to organize and run the mandatory fun/team-bonding events. Does not matter if men at the same level or job would never be expected to ‘waste’ their time putting together these events, women are expected to do it — often on their own time — and we are supposed to like it, too.” —u/myalias1919 “Or telling people to practice self-care. Okay, yes, self-care is important. But we need to be able to put that into practice! We need to be able to take uninterrupted breaks. We need to be able to not answer work-related calls/texts/emails/etc. off the clock without being penalized for it. We need to be able to take PTO without unnecessary hassle. We need to be able to set boundaries instead of being held to ‘quality’ metrics that inhibit them. “And we need to recognize that self-care isn’t the solution to every problem. We need to be paid what we’re worth. We need shorter workdays. We need a just workplace.” —u/coffeeblossom “Take this advice seriously. I was interviewed for a position at a local ski resort rental shop. They told me that they were ‘family.’ “Fast-forward to the second season: I reported sexual harassment against my head supervisor. I found out that the whole crew was doing coke in between helping with customers. They were taking swigs of hard liquor and beer in the locker room all day long. “The bosses were having affairs with young employees. For a while, I kind of accepted that and started partying with them. I finally realized that the term ‘We’re family’ was another way of gatekeeping. I was like, ‘OK, this is too much and my boss is making me feel uncomfortable.’ After I reported it, the rental shop boys turned against me and hated me for it. “I was so traumatized so bad that I skipped my period. I still think about it today.” —u/thisisnotrlynotfunny “‘But it’ll be better for brainstorming!’ ‘But we want to have a more social environment!’ ‘But we want the office to be busy again!’ “No thanks. WFH has been such a boost to my personal situation. I’m able to see my kids before school, I’m not wasting time in traffic or filling my gas tank every couple of days — I just feel better. But it looks as if we have to head back in the new year, and I’m not looking forward to it. “Don’t get me wrong…I’m one of the lucky ones who actually like who they work with. But I want to keep working from home. Maybe go to the office once a week or something, but there is no need for me to be there in person every day. They’ve set us up so well to work from home, and I’m actually way more productive.” —u/trig72 “We all need to start writing reviews on grocery stores and retail stores saying how stupid and unprofessional it looks for the cashiers to be standing, and the employees to be ’looking busy’ always.” —u/supergrl126301 “Last week I interviewed someone with 30 years’ experience in my (male-dominant) industry, and in that interview, he told me about a time when he went to a stripper club in my city, asked me if I liked to party, and asked me if I was married. I could be his daughter. Clearly, a massive HR problem waiting to happen, so he was not hired. “It was obvious he had no idea that what he was saying was inappropriate. More likely than not, this behavior was acceptable at the other companies he worked at.” —u/princess-biddies
